While last month we dealt with the major causes of stress at work, it’s also important to recognize which types of stresses we bring to work. “NWRS” involves personal stresses we carry, which then get magnified at work.
We can divide NWRS into three categories:
- External Stress originates from relationships with family and friends, our surroundings, personal business dealings with vendors, and many other areas of our personal lives.
- Internal Stress includes worries about finances, safety and security, and the ways in which we live our daily lives.
- An “out of balance” life. This happens when the various demands of our lives and the demands we place upon ourselves are not in Harmony. Instead, they are competing and fighting with each other.
Let’s examine the “out of balance” life. How much time and attention do we give our children, spouses, or elderly parents compared to how much time we spend on ourselves, that is, our self-care? Or, perhaps we find ourselves constantly “on,” continuously multi-tasking and living in the vice-grip of technology like smart phones, iPads, TV, and radio.
Other sources of NWRS stress in our lives include our beliefs, opinions and old wounds that we have not learned how to heal from. Many of these stressors keep doing their work on a subconscious level, and we project them onto the people we interact with, both in our personal lives and at work.
Would you believe that many of my clients don’t think they bring their stresses and exhaustion to work? I often hear people say, “I’m very different at work than at home.” Well, it’s my firm belief that we are all “one” person. We may just be a little more careful at work about how we act and react, not letting our complaining and unattractive habits show up as much.
So what is a manager or business leader to do about the NWRS which employees bring to work?
Be aware of it, observe, communicate, listen, be compassionate. But above all, be fair and realistic. And, if need be, point people to the appropriate external resources to get the help they need.
Call me, Coach Hardy, at 603-763-9770 for more guidance, or visit my website.